Lady by Day Tips: Places & Positions
Erotic Layers
Don't underestimate the sensual value of major household appliances! Sometimes
it's sexier to leave your clothes on during lovemaking! If you have an outfit
or even just an item of clothing that you absolutely love because you look
and feel great in it, why not seduce your lover while wearing it? Not only
will you be confident and feel empowered, you'll be even more alluring because
you're not revealing everything. Ladies: Full erotic access can still be gained
while wearing a silky slip or robe, plus that particular piece will forever
bring up fond memories in the future!
Silent Seduction
Sometimes during a sexual encounter, nothing is more erotic than the sound
of your own breath--so capitalize on it! The next time you and your lover
go to bed, don earplugs before beginning your lovemaking. It will enhance
the sound of your breathing and block out the rest of the world so you can
focus solely on your other four senses and enjoying one another's bodies.
Hotter Housework
Don't underestimate the sensual value of major household appliances! The vibration
supplied by a dishwasher, washing machine, or dryer can add a whole new level
to a sexual encounter. (Think spin cycle!) Get creative. Whether you make
love pressed against the washer, draped over the dryer, or with one of you
sitting atop the dishwasher, the vibration and warmth can add a little zing
to your lovemaking--not to mention making housework a whole lot hotter.
Do What Feels Good
Don't be limited by vanity when choosing sexual positions; think of all the
erotic delights you may be missing when you stick with one tried-and-true,
albeit flattering, pose. Experimenting with various directions and stances
allows for intimate areas to be stimulated in different ways and provides
access to more erogenous zones during sensual play. If you're usually on top,
try being on the bottom and vice versa. Stuck for ideas? Use an illustrated
book with suggestions, such as
Kama
Sutra of Sexual Positions, then tweak the suggestions to your satisfaction.
Explore New Horizons
I'm not sure if you've noticed, but anal eroticism seems to be on the upswing.
So before you relegate this practice to things you would never do, consider
this fact: This area of the body has an abundance of nerve endings that respond
most favorably to stimulation. If you're new to anal play and are nervous
about discomfort, start small. Begin your exploration by self-inserting or
having your lover insert a well-lubricated finger or smooth,
small
toy made especially for anal play. We also suggest you use a lube with
a touch of desensitizer, like
Anal-Eze.
In trying something new, you may discover new sensations that are out of this
world!
Feature Your Favorites
Do you have a favorite body part or physical attribute? There's no better
time than lovemaking to highlight it! Love your legs? Choose a sexual position
that puts them in plain view (over your lover's shoulders, perhaps). Do you
have wonderfully soft skin? Then give your lover a massage using all of your
body parts to press against them. Adore your eyes? Hold your lover's gaze
during intercourse. Your options are endless. We all have things we don't
like about ourselves, but there are plenty of sexy ways to accentuate the
positive!
Be a Giver
You've heard the expression "It's better to give than to receive," right?
Well that can hold true in the bedroom, too. For a night, take control of
your partner’s sexual pleasure. This time, it’s all about them. Flirt, tease,
kiss, and lick your partner in ways they can’t resist. Experiment. You're
in charge of doling out pleasure. What better job could there be? Not to mention
that your lover won’t soon forget the delight you've given them. The next
time, it might be all about you!
Spooning Made Sexier
Spooning with your lover first thing in the morning or at the end of a long
day isn't just a great way to reconnect physically and emotionally as a couple.
It also can serve as a delightful, low-stress sexual position that allows
both of you to feel one another's bodies while enjoying the delights of intercourse.
Explore the erotic aspects of cuddling!
Don't Pull a Paris...
Want to save yourself from the potential embarrassment of a Paris Hilton-type
sex tape scandal but are still dying to see your sultry moves on screen? Well
you can. This tip requires a little bit more preparation than most, but if
you like visual stimulation, it’s well worth your time! Get a video camera
(you can likely rent one if you don't have a camcorder of your own) and hook
up the video cable to your television set. Then aim the camera at the location
where you'll be having your sexual encounter, turn on the television and video
camera, and voilà! You're the star of your very own sexy TV show. You'll be
able to see yourself and your partner live without ever having to record a
thing. Simply enjoy the moment and the visuals.
Shower Seduction
Contrary to popular belief, your partner does not have to be strong enough
to hold you up if you want to have intercourse in the shower. Two positions
work quite well, regardless of partner strength or size (although height may
still be an inhibiting factor). The Leg Lift: Standing, she leans her back
against the wall while he holds her knee up in the crook of his elbow. The
Standing Doggy: She bends all the way over, keeping knees slightly bent and
arms positioned against tub ledge, while he enters from behind, holding her
hips.
Position Potpourri
Want to add variety to your lovemaking? Don’t just try a new position, try
them all! Get a book of sexual positions and move from one to the next, spending
about a minute on each. See how many of them you can try! Mark your favorites
to come back to next time, or keep the book near your bed and take turns book-marking
positions you’d like to try next time.
Make Out Like Teenagers
Plan a date with your partner just like when you were a teenager. Start the
evening at the movies, a concert or a friend’s party. Afterwards, go parking
on a back road and make out like crazy! Run your fingers through your sweetie's
hair, do some crotch and chest groping and have hurried, intense kisses - because you never know when you might get caught! Soon you’ll feel that old
puppy love/lust again.
Bath-time Fun for Women
Flowing water is excellent for clitoral stimulation and for many women it’s
an easy shortcut to orgasm. There are two ways to do this. One is to use a
shower massager while standing up or leaning against the shower wall with
one foot on the tub ledge or opposite wall. Adjust your hand-held shower massager
to the right pressure for you and let the water flow over your clitoris. You
can also lie on your back, positioning yourself under the tub faucet with
your feet against the faucet wall (water should already be on). If the direct
flow is too intense, use a wash cloth as a barrier or let the water flow above
your clitoris. Once you’ve got it down, invite your partner to come and watch
your new trick!
Show & Tell
If you’ve never taken the time to masturbate in front of each other, what
are you waiting for? Take turns or do it simultaneously. Making moaning noises
when you are about to reach orgasm will drive your partner wild. When masturbating,
you also have greater control over the timing of your orgasm, so you can adjust
your pace to reach orgasm at the same time. Not only is mutual masturbation
a great way for you both to earn how the other likes to be touched, it also
makes for an amazing erotic experience.
Role Playing in the Boudoir
Playing pretend is not just for kids; it can also set the stage for some erotic
adult fun. First, choose your theme and decide who will play which role. For
instance, you might try one of these combinations: cowboy / damsel in distress;
delivery man / housewife; jock / cheerleader; professor / student; doctor
or nurse / patient. Dressing up, changing your hair style, using an accent
and acting the part will all help make it feel like a brand new sexual experience.
Shower Off!
If you've never had sex in the shower before, try it! And to make it even
more fun, tease each other with a
waterproof
vibrator to start with.
Schwing!
Okay, this is getting a little more advanced, but a hammock can be a great
accessory for sex - giving you or your partner an almost weightless feeling.
Indeed, there are a number of companies that sell "
love
swings" for this very purpose. So, if you can manage it, install
a couple of bolts to the wall from which you can suspend a hammock. Here's
the trick: lay down perpendicularly, in the middle of the swing; otherwise
you risk pulling a "Gilligan" and falling right out!
Switch Hands
All too often people fall into a rut not just with sex, but with masturbation.
For a change of pace, try masturbating with your other hand. Becoming less
rigid will open up possibilities for you - by yourself or with a partner.
Making Love to Yourself
While most people are looking for ways to make sex better with a partner,
too often people forget about themselves. One of the joys of sex is seeing
how much your partner is enjoying his or herself. Don't deny them (or yourself)
that pleasure. Don't get so caught up in pleasing them that you forget to
enjoy yourself.
Try a "Quickie"
Not every sexual encounter has to be a several-course meal; some can be light
snacks you grab when you're starving!
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