Lady by Day Tips: Romance & Relationships
Create a Passion Zone
Feeling uninspired when it comes to sex? Maybe it's your surroundings! If
your bedroom is currently cluttered with bills, work papers, maybe even your
dear old stuffed animals, it's time to clean up and turn on... your libido,
that is! Make this once-sensual haven sex-appropriate again by moving the
laptop out and
erotic toys in. Bring some richly scented
candles to the nightstand, as well as a selection of favorite
lubes,
condoms,
massage oils, and the like. Change the lighting
to something softer and sultrier. Most importantly, create a nest you and
a lover will never want to leave by appointing your bed with luxurious linens
in a mix of sumptuous fabrics. It's guaranteed you'll feel sexier when surrounded
by sexy things!
The Great Indoors
Who says you have to travel deep into the woods and go camping to share a
sleeping bag with your lover? Plan a great escape in your very own home for
the night! Place pillows, blankets, and sleeping bags on the living room floor
(or an air mattress if you don't want to totally rough it). Then get ready
to cuddle. Make a fire if you have a fireplace. Eat marshmallows and fun camping
snacks. Open a bottle of wine. Tell scary stories or read to one another.
(Do not turn on the TV; there’s no cable in the woods!) When you're ready
to go to "sleep," zip your sleeping bags together or simply slip into one
together--naked--and leave the rest to your imagination. You might find that
indoor camping is as much fun as outdoor camping, only a whole lot warmer.
Forget the Quickie
While there's nothing wrong with an impromptu, frenzied sex session, why not
set aside time for romance? Plan a veritable Sexapalooza of lovemaking with
your partner - complete with sensual itinerary. It could include
erotic
massage, your favorite
games,
edible
treats,
adult toys, etc. Choose a special day in
advance with your lover and be sure to have everything you need on hand, such
as
lube
and
condoms,
so no one has to leave the bedroom unless it's absolutely necessary. Then
load up the CD player with mood music and let the sexcapade begin!
Delightful (Dirty) Dancing
Ah, dancing ... It's not just a fun pastime and good exercise. It’s also the
kind of date-night activity that can naturally lead into a night of lust.
Whether you and your lover organize an evening out at a nightclub or a private
"club night" at home, dancing will allow the two of you to get close--and
get freaky--outside of the bedroom. Listen to the music and feel the beat.
Take advantage of each dance to touch, feel, and kiss your partner’s body.
Be sensual. Tickle their ear with hot breath and whisper what you would do
to them if you were in bed together. No need to have fancy moves or be a pro
on the dance floor, just enjoy the moment with your partner. It’s all about
how you two feel together and the anticipation of being alone together after
a sweaty evening filled with sensual desire.
Let's Do Lunch
Many of us have heard about the "long lunch" as the perfect time for a sexual
tryst, but how many people have actually tried it? Don't wait any longer!
Add some spice to your sex life by organizing a secret rendezvous with your
partner during the noontime hour. Pick a day when your afternoon schedules
are completely free of meetings, just in case a long lunch turns into an even
longer evening. You can meet your lover in a hotel, at home, or between your
offices. Heck, if nothing else, go park your car someplace and simply make
out like lovers who haven’t seen each other in a month. Don’t mention anything
to anyone. No conversation is needed, unless, of course, it’s to express your
desires.
Sensualize the Bath
Sex up your bathroom with a few erotic accessories that are inviting to both
you and a potential playmate. If you have tons of counter space or open shelves,
fill 'em up with candles. Keep scented
bath
oils and
waterproof
toys close at hand as well as
silicone
lubricant in a shatterproof bottle (just don't use silicone lubricant
with silicone toys!) to take full advantage of the sensual joys of bathing.
Also, be sure you have a private place to store all of these items should
you have children or guests around!
Use Sheet Signals
Want to make sure your romantic signals don’t get crossed? Buy a set of "special"
sheets (or even just pillow cases) that you or your partner can put on the
bed to silently request a romantic rendezvous. The linens might be a racy
color, a sexy material like satin, or even plain old flannel. What they’re
made of doesn’t matter - it’s the message they send that counts!
Sexy Chef
Prepare an aphrodisiac dinner for two wearing nothing but an apron and a smile.
Many foods have been thought to be aphrodisiacs, including oysters, pine nuts,
peaches, grapes, walnuts - even asparagus! But even more important than the
ingredients you use is that you make the meal light and delicious and use
foods that stir the senses by evoking arousing smells, tastes and textures.
Set the mood by playing sensual background music and placing candles in every
room, and end the evening with an intimate romp on the table or in the kitchen.
Go Postal!
Buy some beautiful stationery, spray it with your favorite cologne or perfume
and create an invitation for a romantic date or trip for you and your lover.
Include the time, date, what to wear and where to meet, but keep the romantic
event a surprise. Address the envelope to your lover and drop it in the mail.
In this era of e-mails, IMs and cell phones, the invitation will be a very
special and romantic surprise followed by an equally surprising, romantic
date.
Burn a Romantic CD
Remember mix tapes? To get you both in the mood, make a mix CD of your favorite
sexy songs. It doesn't matter what the songs are, as long as they make you
feel sexy when you hear them. If your sweetie doesn't share your musical taste,
listen to it ahead of time to get yourself going.
Hairplay
Don't forget simple, sensual pleasures. Something as subtle as brushing your
partner's hair (with a brush or your fingers) can feel wonderful for both
of you.
Lighten Up
When most people give their partner a massage, they act like they are trying
to work a cramp out of a football player's leg. For a much more sensual (and
sexy) approach, try the opposite: see how lightly you can run your hands over
their body while still making contact. You can even try brushing your fingers
slightly above the skin, tickling only the hair (if they have any). Ooooo.
Mr. Bubble
It's not just for kids anymore. Try taking a warm,
sensuous
bath with your partner or yourself. Use aromatic oils and scented bubble
bath. Feel your body relax and your sexual spirit soar.
Speak and Spell
Next time you are giving your partner a back rub, try spelling out a secret
message with your finger and see if he or she can guess what you wrote. Take
turns and see who gets more right. What the winner gets is up to you! :)
The Forgotten Erogenous Zone!
Start out your foreplay by washing your partner's feet and then massaging
them with a peppermint lotion. Then work up to kissing and licking their feet.
By then, they’ll be worked up for other things!
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